conflict resolution, simplified

conflict resolution, simplified

Does your conflict need more complication or less?

It's time to simplify conflict resolution because sorting things out shouldn't be more painful than allowing the problem to continue.

You can resolve interpersonal conflict effectively without memorizing dozens of steps. You can reduce chronic tension in a personal or business relationship without waiting months to see results. You can stay calm in conflict without a long recipe.

Resolve interpersonal conflict at work or home more simply, rapidly, and effectively with Tammy Lenski.

conflict resolution articles

Control anger during conflict like a fly on the wall

Trying to control anger by focusing on angry thoughts and hurt feelings is like fanning the flames. It's far more effective to pretend you're a fly on the wall of a situation, new research confirms. In situations that trigger anger, you probably … [Read more]

Your conflict resolution magic wand

Knowing your conflict hooks and how to handle them is like having a conflict resolution magic wand: You have portable power to turn the little conflicts into nothing and the bigger conflicts into manageable ones. We had just moved from the … [Read more]

Conflict pain and the dog beneath the desk

A friend was sitting at her desk, her beloved lab at her feet. Suddenly, the dog yelped and looked up at her. This happened several more times, the dog's gaze becoming increasingly more accusatory. Finally, he got up and left the room. Later, she … [Read more]

5 effective ways to focus on what’s important in relationship conflict

How do you decide how much of a relationship conflict's flotsam is worth pursuing? How do you focus on the important matters in a relationship conflict and not get sidetracked by trivial ones? Janet, a reader, contacted me about my recent post, … [Read more]

Parental conflict linked to infant brain function

Being exposed to arguments between parents is associated with the way babies' brains process emotional tone of voice, according to a new study to be published in Psychological Science. "The researchers found that infants from high conflict homes … [Read more]

Starting a difficult conversation

Starting a difficult conversation (or negotiation or mediation) can feel like opening Fibber McGee's closet -- chaotic, overwhelming, and hope-sucking. But don't run. A colleague shared the closet metaphor with me years ago and I've passed it … [Read more]

You’re invited…

Google Reader is shutting down (details here). If you follow my posts with Reader, you won't receive anything from me anymore and I'd be sad about that (sniffle sniffle). To continue receiving posts from me, you can: Try one of the Google … [Read more]

Special topics mediation training in Arkansas

I'll be in Fayetteville and Little Rock, Arkansas in April to teach full-day special topics seminars for the Arkansas Conflict Resolution Association. If you're a mediator in the region, I'd love to meet you in person at one of these two mediation … [Read more]

Stress changes how people make decisions

People under stress start paying more attention to positive information and discounting negative information associated with the decision, say researchers. Important implications for negotiation and mediation, if the outcome desired is hoped to … [Read more]

A loving letter to my mediation clients

My friend, There are some things I want to say about mediation with me, things I hope you'll ponder before we gather, things I hope can guide you as we talk. I may mention them a time or two during our time together. Mediation is about … [Read more]

more recent articles >>