How do you get someone to change?

16 September 2007 in Conflict resolution tips

how do you get someone to change?

About the author: Tammy Lenski has been helping individuals and organizations turn conflict into growth and opportunity for two decades. She specializes in transforming interpersonal conflict into stronger personal and professional relationships. © 1997-2012 Tammy Lenski. All rights reserved.

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  1. Lisa Gates :
    16 September 2007 at 7:25 am

    I adore this post, and the creativity it's wrapped in. Perhaps you should subtitle your post, "what I do with the Sunday newspaper…" :-)

    Byron Katie says it best I think. If you want to have a perfect relationship, then BE the change you wish to see. If I say I value deep connection in my friendships, then I have to be that, generate that. As I shift, others shift as a result.

    It's physics, really, isn't it? Everything in relationship to everything else?

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  2. Dr. Tammy Lenski :
    16 September 2007 at 8:19 am

    I love Byron Katie's work too, Lisa, and it's great that you've referenced her here…perfect, really. She has done such a lovely job of taking the idea of complex self-work and distilled it down to its essence.

    I wish all organizations pushing change agendas would consider these ideas too. I've had the good fortune to assist some that do and would love to see a few more…

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