Good reads 2012

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Here’s my annual roundup of books read in 2012 that will stay with me far beyond this year. Some offered new insights, some soothed, and some rattled my cage. None is a conflict resolution book per se but all address the most important things we must do to resolve conflicts in our own lives and the lives of others.

I cleaned out my bookshelves last weekend and donated dozens of 2012 reads to my local library. These are books that survived the cut and earned long-term residence on my shelves. The links are all Amazon affiliate links…if you don’t want me to get a few cents if you buy one of the books, then skip the links.

Being Wrong: Adventures in the Margin of Error

A terrific exploration of error, defensiveness, and denial, this book helps us understand not just the experience of being wrong but also how to embrace our wrongness and use it to transform our lives for the better.

Fully Alive: A Retreat with Pema Chodron on Living Beautifully with Uncertainty and Change

Chödrön’s words and voice somehow manage to soothe and energize me at the same time. I’ve loved this CD so much I’ve given countless copies to friends this year.

Surviving Survival: The Art and Science of Resilience

This is a book about getting your life back after a trauma, large or small. If you’re figuring out how to move on after a divorce or other significant conflict, this book will provide much food for thought and action.

Everything Is Obvious: How Common Sense Fails Us

I like to have my own certainties about the world turned upside down periodically so I don’t get too sure of myself or too arrogant. This book did it for me this year and I hope you’ll consider letting it do it for you, too.

Search Inside Yourself: The Unexpected Path to Achieving Success, Happiness (and World Peace)

Never have I had so much fun reading about mindfulness, creativity, stress reduction, well-being, and resiliency. This book is based on a course the author teaches at Google.

The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business

How we engage conflict is, in part, a habit. But habit is not destiny and this book offers accessible, achievable habit-changing ideas.

Ok, your turn: What were some of your favorite reads in 2012? Share them in the comments section below…I’m starting my 2013 reading pile already!

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  1. says

    One of my faves this year was “Reality is Broken: Why Games Make Us Better and How They Can Change the World” by Jane McGonigal. ( It gave me a wonderfully new perspective on the teaming, relationship building, and accomplishment built in to some types of gaming. A whole new world. Happy Holidays, Tammy!

  2. Harris says

    I really enjoyed “Mistakes Were Mad (But Not By Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions and Hurtful Acts”. by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson. The book looks at the role of cognitive dissonance in how we view ourselves and how we are constantly attempting to balance our positive sense of self against negative things we do to others.

    • says

      Someone else just recommended that one to me a few days ago, Bob. I’ve just added it to my list of books to get at Toadstool. Hope you’re well and our paths cross in person again some day soon.

  3. Nan Starr says

    “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking” by Susan Cain. Definitely worth adding to your 2013 reading pile, Tammy. Good as an audio read too.
    Thanks for sharing your 2012 list – timely as we attempt to pick a book for NEACR pilot regional book gatherings in February!
    Happy New Year!

    • says

      Nan, I saw Cain interviewed somewhere on the web over the Christmas holiday and the book sounds very interesting. I’ve added it to the list! Happy new year.