Conflict in personal, professional and business relationships leaves permanent cracks and breaks behind. What if, instead of trying to ignore or hide the damage, we revered it, understanding that “better than new” is more valuable than “good as new”?
The conflict zen blog
Some people do conflict loudly, whether due to familial or cultural roots, habit, or a low boiling point. When you want to interrupt someone’s habitual yelling during conflict, try to make the request without contributing to the fight.
Chronic or unresolved conflict can trigger us to react based on what has happened in the past even when the present circumstances don’t warrant that reaction. In those instances, the conflict may be very real but not entirely true.
When friction enters a working relationship, sometimes the best path through isn’t to dissect it and talk about it. Sometimes the best path through is an indirect one — ask for a favor from them. Just like Ben Franklin suggested.
Feeling dissed? Here’s how to raise concerns about disrespect in a way that increases dialogue and decreases pushback.
Thinking about the future helps couples overcome relationship conflicts and view the situation in a more reasoned and positive light, according to new research. Here’s how to use the researchers’ simple mental exercise to create psychological distance from a conflict and dial down the heat of an argument.
During conflict, focusing mostly on anger’s behavior instead of on anger’s real message is like burying the lede in a news story.
You don’t get better at listening during conflict by practicing it during conflict. You get better at listening during conflict by practicing it first outside of conflict. Here are 3 ways to practice being a better listener in everyday life.
Strengthening your conflict resolution chops isn’t about learning a new skill and then trying to use it in your most difficult conversations. Just as you wouldn’t start running and try a marathon the following week, acquiring more successful conflict resolution habits is about a slow, steady build. Start with 30-second chunks.
Stories help us retain ideas and try new ones on for size. We use stories to understand and make meaning, constructing our world with their help. And stories are a powerful way to remember conflict resolution lessons and ideas.